It happens in the small moments

(4 minute read) // (15 minute exploration)

I’m sorry…

Can somebody please tell me where this year has gone?

HOW is it June next week?!

To be honest, when I actively stop and think about it, a lot has happened in these last 5 months, but also… it kinda feels like life has just been happening to me.

I’m just trying to keep up.

How’s this point of the year feeling for you? Let’s reflect on it. 

Sing it with me now…

I hope I’m finding you sat down, chilling somewhere, ready for some self-deepening.

(For those who have only just joined us, you’ll get used to this)

I have a lesson, 3 questions and a dare for you.

[A LESSON]

Who we are is built in the small moments!

When you think about it, these last (unnecessarily fast) 5 months were just a collection of days, weeks and months comprised of small moments. 

Small moments that have either been shaping you into the person you want to be, or small moments that haven’t.

(Incoming - a little tough love) 😅

The person you are right now, reading this email at home, on the bus, at work etc… IS the person you are.

Who you think you could be or should be, is cool n’all, but in many ways, just a fantasy.

And it will stay a fantasy until the right everyday actions stack up enough to make it a reality. 

And those decisions are likely to be small.

Things like; not going out for the run, bailing on your friend, ignoring that gut feeling, not speaking up when you know they were wrong, chickening out of trying something new etc. And compounded they’re what’ll have you lying in bed at night trying to figure out why you don’t really feel like you. 

(Incoming - a little more love)

What this also means, is that it doesn’t require big, costly decisions to become the person you want to be. You can do it with the small. 

[3 QUESTIONS]

1. Today, are you actually the person you tell yourself you are?

2. On a scale of 1-10 (1 being awful, 10 being flawless) how would you rate the alignment/integrity* of your small everyday decisions? 

   *How in line are they with the person you want to be?

3. In 5 months from now, where/who do you want to be?

[A DARE]

I dare you to identify 2 everyday actions that you can either start, stop or continue doing - that will support you in building a life and becoming the person that feels good and true to you. 

And if your mind is going blank - here, I started a list for you:

• Start journalling 

• Practice gratitude

• Stop comparing yourself to others

• Reevaluate your relationship with social media

• Stop over-committing 

• Look at your numbing/coping strategies

• Set some new boundaries 

• Prioritize self-care

• Identify YOUR type of self-care (not everyone wants a bubble bath)

• Learn something new

• Stop holding that grudge

• Start expressing your creativity

• Stop procrastinating 

• Wear something different

• Have that conversation

• Start building new friendships 

• Continue nurturing old ones 

And as I’m listing transformative small decisions, I hope you don’t mind me telling you about The NEIGHBOURHOOD. 

The NEIGHBOURHOOD is a monthly membership that makes sticking to those good habits 10000x easier. 

For only $33 a month you get access to 3x live self-discovery experiences, 100+ journalling prompts, exposure to new hobbies and knowledge, bizarre but enlightening reflection exercises, opportunities to explore your creativity, accountability and support - and the best part… a whole new crew of open-minded, kind individuals, exploring right alongside you. 

This community truly is one-of-a-kind, which is why we are keeping these first few months small. We only have 20 spots remaining, doors will close on May 31st and won’t reopen again until August. 

Think about these last 5 months.

Then think about the next 5.

Could this be one of those small decisions that will support you in showing up as the person you want to be?

Trust that gut feeling > https://jointheneighbourhood.com/ 

See you on a Sunday.

L