What liminal space are you in?

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I’m not sure about you, but I’m personally loving our biweekly (instead of monthly) SELFHOOD Sundays!

If you’re new here - welcome! This is the point where I tell you to grab a beverage, find somewhere cozy and settle in.

It’s time for your dose of self-exploration!

Today, we’re diving into something we all experience but rarely talk about: the liminal space. 

You know, that murky, transitional period between life stages or milestones where things feel uncertain or in flux. It could be between jobs, after a breakup, or a phase of life where you’re unsure what’s next.

We often rush through these in-between moments, fixated on what’s coming, but what if I told you that this space holds just as much value as the big milestones?

As always, I have a lesson, 3 questions, and a dare for you.

Let’s explore who we get to become in the spaces between.

[A LESSON]

"Liminal space" is a term from anthropology that has become a powerful metaphor for those moments in between.

We often think about life as a series of milestones: graduating, landing a job, getting married, having kids, hitting career goals etc. But what happens between these big moments?

That space where you’re not where you were, but also, not where you’re going. The uncomfortable, eerie, at times frustrating seasons of life.

It’s the liminal space.

Most of us hate this bit.

Our natural instinct is to rush through these times, feeling like we’re only valuable when we’re achieving or moving forward. But there’s something special about these "in-between" phases and they hold powerful potential for self-exploration and discovery.

It’s also where the… living.. gets to happen.

But if you’re still not sold…

Here are 5 reasons why liminal spaces matter:

1. A space for reflection and growth
   Liminal spaces create room for deep reflection. Without the pressure of having to be at a specific point in life, you have the chance to ask yourself the important questions: What do I want? Who am I becoming? This is often where you realize that your current goals or identities no longer fit who you are—and that’s a good thing! Growth happens when you allow yourself to sit in the discomfort of not knowing.

2. Breaking free from old identities
   Often, we’re so attached to the identities we’ve built that it becomes hard to let go—even when they no longer serve us. Liminal spaces give us permission to loosen that grip. Whether you’re transitioning from employee to entrepreneur, single to partner, or something less defined, these phases are an opportunity to let go of outdated identities and evolve into something new. There’s freedom in no longer being what you were, even if you haven’t fully stepped into what you’re becoming.

There is freedom in no longer being what you were, even if you haven’t fully stepped into what you’re becoming.

3. Cultivating resilience and patience
   Embracing liminal spaces can teach us patience and resilience. Life rarely moves in a straight line, and these “in-between” moments remind us that it’s okay not to have all the answers. It’s during these times of uncertainty that we build the resilience to handle future challenges with more grace.

4. The magic of possibility ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨

Think of liminal spaces as thresholds—places where all possibilities exist. You haven’t committed to a specific path yet, which means everything is still on the table. It’s a time to experiment, try new things, and explore different aspects of yourself without feeling confined by past roles or future expectations.

5. Liminal spaces are necessary parts of the journey, not a delay
   Society often teaches us that these transitional periods are merely time wasted between achieving the “next thing.” But what if we reframed these moments as essential parts of our journey? The growth and clarity that emerge from these times are often the most transformative parts of our lives. You’re not "stuck"—you’re evolving.

By exploring liminal spaces as more than just awkward pauses in your journey, you can begin to see them as a vital part of your identity formation. They force you to sit with the question of who you are becoming rather than always rushing towards who you are.

[3 QUESTIONS ]

1. What is one liminal space or transition you are experiencing right now?

   Identify a part of your life where you feel in-between—could be a career shift, a relationship change, or just a period of life uncertainty.

2. What old identity or role are you holding onto that may no longer serve who you’re becoming?

3. What new possibilities or aspects of yourself can you explore in this liminal space?

[A DARE]

I dare you…

To write a letter to the next version of yourself. Reflect on the transition or liminal space you’re in right now, and ask yourself: Who am I becoming in this phase?

Share with your future self what you’re learning about yourself, how this period is shaping you, and what you hope they’ll remember from this time of uncertainty. Put it away, set a reminder to open it in 6 months, and see how much you’ve grown.

NOTE TO SELF: It’s not about rushing to the next goal, but about learning to be in the in-between. (In full transparency, I wrote today’s email because I needed to read it).

And it can’t be just me?!? What transitions are you navigating right now?

You know I love to hear your thoughts. Hit reply and let me know, whenever you’re ready.

Here’s to embracing the liminal space and all the magic of the ‘in-between’. 💫

See you on a Sunday!
L

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